Dating love at first sight

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If what you think you are feeling when dating  love at first sight it will bring much damage to the brain as you move further along in the relationship. You need to be sick to get it, and when you get it, it will make you sick.

 Have we not all been there? I think it is more lust than anything else.

You can probably relate to love at first sight at some level, especially when you were a teenager. In adulthood, when such feelings have the opportunity to develop into something that may be for keeps you need to understand that there is no such thing as love at first sight.

When it comes to dating do not let your fantasies fool you into thinking you have found something of value just because a person turns your head or makes your heart beat faster. A fast beating heart has nothing to do with love or with anything that will last. If you do not fall in love at first sight it does not mean that the person you meet does not have great value or even lasting potential.

The reason you may feel this about someone could be coming from a lot of sources, and sometimes it is important to find what those sources are. You need to look at the whole package yes it is all fair wanting a Hollywood movie star but you also need to match what you are looking for.

When dating Love is built through soul-to-soul connection, shared values, commitment, resolving conflicts and hurts, tenderness, sacrifice, forgiveness, giving, displays of character, spiritual compatibility, growing and sharing-things that all have something important in common. Love takes time. Anything short of that may be exciting even intoxicating or lead to instant gratification, but it isn’t love.

Real people are where the real things in life are. Date real people not fantasies. Are you still doing the same things and getting the same results are you still single, why not turn to a personal professional matchmaker where there are single professional men and women of various races, cultures, religions, ages, etc, etc who want to date and fall in love and have the right connection with the right person. Take that leap of faith AND why wait, make that decision, not next year, the opportunity is now. Contact and where your love of your life is waiting for you.


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1. Have faith in Dating that your life partner is out there, and you cannot and will not miss him/her.

2. Feel confident and not desperate. Desperation repels!

3. Drop your agenda and live fully in the now.

4. Remember there is no such thing as rejection, only the wrong fit or incompatibility! It is not about you, so don’t take it personally.

5. Focus on the other person if you feel awkward.

6. Quit sweating every phone call.

7. Be gentle with yourself. You’re learning to open up, and be vulnerable.

8. Give your dates a break, they are feeling as vulnerable and awkward as you.

9. Be aware of “the rubber band affect”!

10. Date with freedom – No strings!

11. Make no assumptions. If in doubt, always ask!

12. Be willing to speak your truth and say no lovingly. (you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do – have sex, smoke or other behaviours)

13. Avoid SMS and emails as the main form of communication. They are only complements to communication, but cannot substitute in person communication.

14. Understand that all love grows gradually. (your grandparents were right)

15. Maintain your other commitments with friends, gym, hobbies, spiritual beliefs and everything else you enjoy doing.

16. Take time to pray, meditate, say affirmations, and listen to your heart and what it is telling you about your relationships, dates, etc.

17. Trust! If you are soul-mates, ultimately nothing will keep you apart!

The Modern Cupid (Meet Theo Malherbe)

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The ‘soulmate search’ has inspired novel after novel, been a long-running theme in film, and dominates many a mainstream. Reality TV tried it-with varying success. But is quitting your job to audition for a place among 24 ‘finalists’ vying for the heart of TV’s most eligible bachelor the only way to secure a date these days.

Simply put not anymore. Redefining the way South Africans search for true love is Theo Malherbe.

When Theo went through all of the dating possibilities himself, he recognised a global need for a service and launched The Only Social Club. It has now been in operation for over 5 years.

It is today one of the fastest-growing and most successful dating and matchmaking service in the country. In the 5 years that he has been in operation Theo Malherbe’s service has changed the way South African singles look for love.

While becoming a modern day cupid is a feat in itself, Theo’s venture has simultaneously catapulted him to entrepreneurial success.

“The Only Social Club is a facility which introduces high-calibre people in a professional manner, where Integrity and Confidentiality are guaranteed, and matches are made to one’s unique specifications,” explains Theo. Remember matchmaking was a big thing in the old days.

“The Only Social Club is not a sex service and no numbers and names game but deals rather in quality relationships. It is an opportunity that has tremendous appeal for many professionals of all walks of life,” insists Theo. He mentions that professionals invest in other areas of there lives why not invest in your personal life.  All matches are done according to ones specifications and remember everyone has a wish list. Do you fit what you are looking for??

“There are many single lonely people, and almost everyone is trying to meet a companion, soulmate or lover. Our aim and mission is to have all members dating and in a successful relationship,” he explains.

“Many members understand how the service works and there are others that want instant gratification, he says, but he mentions that he keeps to the nature of the business and if they want instant gratification they need to then find a service that will then help them. “If we continue doing the same things we will get the same results,” he says. Change your behaviour.

In conclusion Theo says that he has many singles that are now in a successful relationship and some have resulted in engagements as well as marriages. He definitely feels that he has made a difference in many single lives.

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