Flirting get’s easier and less scary once you learn how to be present. When you are aware of the sensations of your body and can objectively notice the thoughts running around in your mind, that’s a big part of presence.

Many people appear to be seriously challenged in the flirting department. They put too much importance on the outcome of each potential flirting encounter – so the actual encounter never happens.

Challenge yourself. Take control of your life. Don’t try to please others. Forgive those who have done you wrong or you will be embittered and it will spoil your enjoyment of life. Spend an hour a day in the sun … Read More

Achieve a balanced focus on the present, past and future. For instance, it helps not to blame yourself or others for things that happened in the past and it does not help to worry about a future you cannot change. … Read More

Understand your emotions – such as being jealous or unreasonable – and how this affects others. Find words to match how you feel. Look in the mirror to see what you look like when you are feeling a particular emotion … Read More

Productive relationships are the key to keeping you happy. Smile and laugh – it’s good for the body. Eat five portions of fruit and vegetables a day and get lots of exercise. A happy brain makes you happy. Give your … Read More

Is it for you? It is not for everyone. But even if you are not ready to commit, the skills you learn when dating will help you to become more confident and present. Dating seems scary when you forget that you … Read More

Style is knowing who you are, what you want to say, and not giving a damn. There is nothing superficial about appearances. Sometimes a dramatic change to our bodies can alter our oulook on life. Appearances matter. 55% of what … Read More

Found in the Argus/Sunday Times. Science reveals sure-fire ways to attract a lover. In order for the first date to be a success, forget about the romantic meal: Let your body do the talking. Body language is far more important … Read More

You will find that an awkward attempt to be real is more attractive than the most polished attempt to impress. Do not complain, make it a point to notice how often you do complain. Speaking badly about your past or … Read More

You’re attracted – now what? When you make it your intent to simply be present, fears about the outcome disappear. Ask questions – if it’s a sincere question and you really care about the answer. Forget about trying to be … Read More

Is the other person going to like me? Do I look good? How must I dress? Do I talk to much? First impressions always count. Always be punctual, be you, authentic, be real, listen to the other person, be calm and confident … Read More