Moving on after a BREAK UP

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I recently read an article on exes, break ups and our behaviour around it. It reminded me of my own recent break up. The love of my life! The total high when you are in love. I had feelings of total ecstasy.

I did have thoughts though of: am I being true to myself? Have I given the best part of myself away?

To my dismay after a whirlwind of love and romance, agreements were broken, betrayal and a total breakdown in communication. I find SMS and WhatsApp a cop out and that one can interrupt messages how one chooses to read them. It is so easy to hide behind the various social media platforms.

The first two weeks after the breakup I found my thoughts, words and actions were not aligned. I thought I had bipolar. I felt a sense of loss, that emptiness, my emotions were up and down and I wanted to go back for all the wrong reasons. I was not the one that did the betrayal. My behaviour was erratic. This is normal so I hear. I have too heard that this shall pass.

I then eventually made peace with the breakup. I plucked into the resources I knew best in order to heal. With the journey I have been on I have my own tool box of tools in order to help and assist me wherever needed. I needed to go through the pain and all the emotions that I was experiencing. However painful it was I knew I will get through it. I had to look for the opportunity and how I can grow, move on from this and work on myself. I had a huge discomfort with certain feelings; the adult child behaviour came out as well as feelings of rejection and abandonment.

It is now 8 weeks since the breakup. My heart is definitely almost healed. I do love and approve of myself. I still believe in love. I am a total romantic. The path to love is that you will find your love story. The path to love is not about externals. I believe the moment you enter into a relationship or the person you are currently with is a mirror of who you are inside. When you truly find love you find yourself.